Keep in mind you may be the first
person an abused woman has talked to about her situation. It is
very difficult for a woman to acknowledge that she is a victim of
abuse. She may not label what happens to her at home as abuse.
Instead, she may talk to you about her partner being upset or
things not going too well at home.
Let her tell her story.
her story. It is difficult for an abused woman to seek help. She
needs your trust.
she may be embarrassed, confused, or ambivalent after what she has
gone through. She may not be ready to leave the abusive situation
and that is okay.
No one deserves to be hurt or abused.
You are concerned for her safety.
She is not alone.
There is help available. It helps to reach out and talk to people
who understand and want to help.
· Ask if it
is safe for her to go home? If not, does she have a place to
her about the need for a thorough plan for leaving - when
to go, what to take, etc.
· Let her
know there is help available.
her with resources to call.
Avoid suggesting marriage counseling. Until she is safe and
the violence has stopped, couples counseling can be dangerous.
When a woman speaks openly of her pain and fear in counseling
sessions with her partner, she is in danger of being assaulted.
possible, consider referring her to individual counseling with
a counselor or a therapist who understands the complexities of
domestic violence. A trained professional can help a woman plan
effectively for her safety and the safety of her children and
understand how to avoid disastrous relationships in the future.
Do not contact the abuser without her permission. If her
abuser knows she turned to anyone for help, it could put her and
her children in grave danger.