between intimate partners includes physical, emotional, and sexual
abuse which is used as a means of controlling the partner and
ultimately holding all the power in the relationship.
physical component of abuse takes the form of battering
incidents. How frequent and severe these incidents are varies from
relationship to relationship.
emotional component of abuse includes verbal attacks, assaults
and humiliation; badgering and intimidation; control tactics such as
refusal to discuss certain issues and withholding love and affection;
as well as specifically articulated threats of further violence
against her person, her loved ones, or her property. A distinction
must be made between a batterer who must be left to obtain safety for
one's self and one's family; and intimate communication between two
people that is well meaning, but escalates angrily out of control.
Professionally trained family therapists are available to all
religious communities for family life education and enrichment
programs in this area.
The sexual component of abuse
involves forcing her to engage in sexual acts against her will. Each
form of abuse itself makes a relationship an abusive one, but
generally all these components are present in an abusive relationship.