Myth: Women are at fault; they provoke domestic violence.
Reality: A woman's behavior is not a cause or excuse for
Myth: Domestic violence is a problem that involves only the poor and minority
Reality: Domestic violence happens in all cultures, races
Myth: Financial security stops domestic violence.
Reality: Domestic violence occurs in all socioeconomic
Myth: Abusers are violent toward everyone, everywhere.
Reality: Though abusers are sometimes consistent in how
they treat people inside and outside of their homes, they may also
be charming, helpful and kind to those with whom they work or with
whom they are involved in the community. Their abuse may be
evidenced only in their homes.
Myth: Marriage stops the abuse.
Reality: Violence escalates when an abuser marries.
Myth: Rape cannot happen in marriage.
Reality: When one is forced to engage in sexual acts
against her/his will, a rape has occurred.
Myth: Prayer and faith alone will stop the abuse.
Reality: Prayer and faith alone will not stop
Myth: Any woman could leave the situation if she really wanted to.
Reality: Leaving an abuser is a very complicated process.
(Refer to "Why Women Stay.").
Myth: Abusive partners will always abuse.
Reality: The "honeymoon phase" of domestic violence should
not be confused with a de-escalation of violence. (Refer to "Why
Women Stay.") However, with the right combination of counseling or
therapy, commitment, determination, hard work and community
support, it is possible to change abusive patterns. Learning
effective communication skills and recognizing differences in ways
men and women communicate; dealing with unresolved anger toward
parents; and understanding how one really feels about other
significant people and events are essential to decreasing
incidents of violence.
Facts about Domestic
According to the surgeon general
of the United States:
Battering is the single largest cause of injury to women
Battering accounts for 1/5 of all emergency room cases2
According to the U.S. Department
of Justice - National Coalition Against Domestic Violence:
1 million women seek medical assistance for being abused each year
2 to 4 million women are abused in the U.S. each year
1400 women die each year as a result of domestic violence3
M., Bowman, C. and Torrey, M. (1994). Feminist Jurisprudence -
Taking Women Seriously. West Publishing.
News Special. "Domestic Violence: Breaking The Silence." June